Your wife's fatalism keeps her from being willing to try. As long as she believes she must follow some destiny that is laid out for her, you can't make any headway. Let her go. If her fate truly awaits, great, she was right. If she runs into brick walls and finds there is no destiny, then maybe she'll look back and see that what she left behind was a good life. You can't reason with her. She has her head filled with all this new age stuff.
