Sweetie, I'm so sorry. Now is the time to take care of you. First you've got to get rid of that cold. I think no contact unless you must regarding finances (kids are grown right?). Take this time to remember who you are, what you want. He needs to do his thing whatever that is and anything from you won't be helpful (I'm sorry).
It's nice that he's taking care of you, but I really wouldn't ask for anything. If he just does something on his own be nice say thank you and let hm know you appreciate it, then let it go.
You will be ok. It takes time, patience (with yourself and him) and introspection. Please e-mail me and I'll get your info and send you that cd. Might help and I really don't think it will hurt.
