Does anyone know where they explained why they did what they did to choc? One of the moderators mentioned something on the last post on my extension 10 sandbox in a cryptic fashion and then locked it so I couldn't question them again.
I feel well let down
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Here's the latest. When I did the car switcheroo on her, she ran to her dad, crying that she is stuck driving a high-mileage car. So now she is shopping for a car. And we cannot afford another car payment. She also told me that her father will help her sell the old beater. So it seems that her father is (maybe) upset with me for pulling this.
I do not want her to purchase a new car that we cannot afford. But she is stubbornly refusing to drive the old car. So, my options are:
1 - File for divorce. This will legally prevent her from making a major purchase.
2 - Give her the newer car back, and resume driving the old car. This will take some major crow-eating. And backing down, which I swore I would not do. And it will put me back in good graces with her family. But not her, because she hates me. Also, she may refuse to drive the newer car that we have, and continue with the purchase.
3 - Let her purchase the car and hope that we can swing it. Putting numbers to paper, it does not look good. The insurance payment will also go up.
4 - Call her father and explain why I made the switch (primary reason was to make it more difficult for her to visit her out-of-town boyfriend). Then hope that FIL stands up to her (remember, she told him about the affair, but lied and to him, telling him it was over).
I would love to hear some advice. I am leaning toward #2. Condor, care to weigh in?
Give her back to the car, tell her why (we can't afford a new car right now, you are going to financially wreck us). Tell her you never wanted her 'in danger' (driving the old car), but that you are tired of letting her have the easy way out (ie: reliable car to see Shrek). And if you truly think FIL is upset (and it matters to you...), then explain why to him, and after that, tell him this will be the last time you 'explain yourself' to him and put him in the middle. That if he ever wants to talk or ask you questions, your door is open.
This is my gut opinion. I have NO idea if its the *right* thing to do.... I am thinking of you.
That sounds good to me. And you are not putting him in the middle. Your wife did. Is he going to buy a new car for her? Why does talking to him enable her to buy a car with your money? I'm missing something here.
Yeah, I left something out. Her father is going to help her sell the old car. And co-sign for a loan on the new one. Yeah, she's 40 years old, and needs her dad to do all of this...
