When I read your post dated 2/15/05 starting with "she was very negative tonight....." I thought to myself too much R talk with W. I didn't post to you because I thought that you wouldn't want to hear that. But now if look at W is saying to you, she's indicating that she doesn't like the R talk either, even if she's initiated it.
All that the R talk is doing is reminding her why she wants to leave. So I would say to you cut out all R talk, if she starts it, change the subject until you're at a point where you can see that the R talk will be beneficial.
Originally Posted By: steve477
She said her decision kind of rests with me. She says that when I am calm and nice to her, she is unsure about leaving but when we `talk` then she is sure about leaving.
But now if you also look again at W is telling you she is giving you now the blue print to you success. Less talk and more action. So read again what you just written and do more of what works and less of what doesn't. The talking isn't working in your favour, I can't say any more than that.
