As far as the kids, I imagine we would get joint custody, I don't see any arguments that either of us could successfully use to get anything different. She has to stay in her resent job for another two years, or she gets to cough up $30,000 for the education they paid for, plus here parents are here, so I don't think she'll be going anywhere. It won't be great, but it would work out ok.
Mmmmkay. All right. I'm going to say something inflammatory. You are using good old fashioned logic and common sense here. That may be okay, it may not be okay. And it could change from being okay to not as the emotions and bitterness and anger over the situation build up and potentially explode.
I'd hate to see your lovely family on an episode of Jerry Springer or something.
Is there an OM that you know about? That will significantly change this issue. Very significantly as it will add to the above emotions exponentially.
Your situation sounds most similar to W2S's a few years back to me. I'm not sure he has any advice for you, but I will ask him to check it out.
Originally Posted By: dry_heat
I think it has been bad for at least 10 years, so that statistic isn't too useful.
Uh-oh. MLC time frames???? :-))))) Kidding!
Originally Posted By: dry_heat
Thanks for coming by, F1. I like to hear your thoughts.
You are welcome sweetie. I don't seem to have any good answers or advice. It's a very frustrating place to be, but....
As Granny would say, Expect the Best, Prepare for the Worst. Be prepared to immediately post discussion shield your finances and assets and blah blah blah as much as possible. Maybe a trip to a lawyer to discuss would be very helpful, without putting him on retainer. That's just a red cape to a bull.
Perhaps physically removing you and the boys to a fun hotel for a few days would be helpful. Or something similar. You will know more about what would work and what not.
I don't know that any of us can actually "prepare emotionally" for something like this. Even when we are absolutely positively sure that it is the correct choice. And you seem to be understandably wavering.
It's okay, sweetie. Really. Whatever you choose. It's okay.
