Eddie, your posts are so smart, insightful, articulate, sensitive (and you are clearly all of those things)... that it's hard for people to believe that you are even temporarily okay with this situation. It does take all kinds, and maybe you are okay with it. Or maybe you're not sure how you are with it and eventually you'll discover how you feel. I've always believed that if you don't know what to do, don't do anything. So hanging with the sitch (as it were) is probably as good a course as anything. There's no crime in being outside the norm or tolerating more than the people in the middle of the Bell Curve think is tolerable. Just make sure you're being honest with YOURSELF at all times, even if you're not honest here (you certainly owe us nothing) or with your W. If your internal limits change from where they are now, recognize it.
My gut feeling is that being very civilized and rational in the face of outrageous circumstances comes pretty easily to you. You'd probably grab all the right things if your house were burning down around your ears. You're the one people turn to in a crisis because you keep your head. Just don't forget to save yourself.
