Could she cross my boundaries in the future. Yes... if so, will I really be worse off than I'd be right now if they'd been crossed a month ago? I don't see how.

Is she more likely to cross them given what she's up to now? I don't know. She's not following any of the affair patterns I know about. She gives me plenty of attention, she hides nothing, she's given me her passwords and invited me to read anything I want from her message history. Hell, I'm more secretive than she is... she's never heard of this site, for instance.

Is she testing me? I doubt it... if I were failing her tests she'd have turned cold weeks ago.

Originally Posted By: Kettricken
What was your sex/physical relationship like before this guy came back into the picture?


Quite good. It hasn't changed much.

Originally Posted By: Kettricken
Because the above sounds to me like her relationship with him is spiking her drive through the roof and you're getting the spillover. Not only is that pretty repulsive, being the virtual equivalent of sloppy seconds (IMHO), will it continue if/when he is *physically* available to her? Is her desire being mostly or solely propped up by her affair?


I seriously doubt it. Her desire has varied a bit, but over the past year or so it's been consistently higher than before.

I don't find any of this repulsive at all. On the other hand, I'm completely grossed out by anal sex, which I'm told a lot of people really enjoy. Such is life.

Last edited by Crazy Eddie; 02/16/08 01:56 PM.
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