When I asked why she wanted me, it was a serious question that I was hoping for an answer to. She doesn't quite fit any of the patterns of attraction that I know of so far. And when something doesn't fit, regardless of the state of my self-esteem, I get interested and want to know why.
But, if you adopt the theory that Mrs. Eddie is sexually attracted to people that are similar to me, past or present, her behavior fits nicely. HSEB has a definite physical resemblance to yours truly, and acts quite a bit like I did years ago. That still doesn't explain why she is so different from most of humanity, but at least she's consistent.
I don't think I'm being a "nice guy". There's nothing covert about what I expect or what I'll accept... I've spelled it out in plain English, and I have no problem holding her to it as needed. If she gives me what I want and need from her, I'll be happy to keep her. If she doesn't, and shows no willingness to work with me, I'll cut my losses and move on. I'm not tolerating the intolerable, I'm enjoying being with her. I don't need her, but I want her, and she hasn't given me any reason to even think about giving her up.
What some of y'all have been putting up with would be a deal-breaker for me. If she pushes me away, pays me no attention, refuses to have sex with me, and shows no sign of even thinking that anything needs fixing, that's unacceptable whether she's too busy with another guy, too busy playing on the Internet, or too busy hovering over the children.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
