I understand having those false hopes. Try though from this point to look for the positive. If you've been keeping a journal (even if it's only notes on post-it paper) for the last year I think you'll find that things are improving. If you haven't been keeping a journal start keeping one now and think back last week, to last month, to last year and write those memories down. He may still be angry but he may not be angry as often. Find the little things that can show you improvement.
If your husband is helping your mother he's not a bad person, he's just confused right now (and so are you - I know).
