Sorry haven't checked in lizzy S5 had 105 fever for 5 days and today i fel on ice at school and fractured my ankle. will check in on you when my pain isn't a level 9!
Ouch BobbiJo, I have been worried about you and I see why. ((((((HUGS))))) to you and S. Hope H is taking care of you two.
I've been keeping quiet for a while. What happenned with that dinner date? I missed the update... I am glad you are holding on strong,
xxxxxxxxx kalni
I don't know if I would call it a dinner date. Ds were there. He was really quiet when I got there, but he had my margarita waiting for me. H actually looked pretty bad as he is sick again and I'm sure tired. Anyway he got a little livelier and we all ended up having a good time. I don't know what it means if anything. Maybe H was just feeling sorry for me and didn't want me to be alone on v-day. No card or anything from him as expected.
Liz, my H hasn't initiated or asked or implied anything like that on any day... The minimum I would say, is that he is comfortable with your presence and that gives you the room to show who you are and who is person he chose to leave behind.
A card would be like a lifetime committment for him right now if he is anything like mine (I think we have established that so far).
Liz, my H hasn't initiated or asked or implied anything like that on any day... The minimum I would say, is that he is comfortable with your presence and that gives you the room to show who you are and who is person he chose to leave behind.
A card would be like a lifetime committment for him right now if he is anything like mine (I think we have established that so far).
xxxx Kalni
Another interesting development. This morning H called and asked if I minded him taking the Ds to a movie tomorrow. My day but I said I didn't mind at all. I really don't. I thought he would take them next weekend, but H did let me stay at the house Tues. during a snowstorm instead of kicking my out in the cold. I told him then he could have another night w/ them this week to make up for it. H called about an hour ago and I told him about plans Ds and I have in the evening tomorrow so they will need to go to an early show. H said I could go to the movie too if I wanted to. Wow! This is from the guy who didn't like doing things as a family 3 months ago because it gave the Ds and me the wrong idea. Things that make you go Hmm?!
Wow! This is from the guy who didn't like doing things as a family 3 months ago because it gave the Ds and me the wrong idea. Things that make you go Hmm?!
What, you mean like how my W and I walked around a mall for an hour with D holding hands (M-D-W layout) after having dinner together?
So today was a pretty low key day. Took up H's invitation and went to the movie w/ him and Ds. H picked the movie, Spiderwick Cronicles. Didn't know that the children in the movie were moving to a home in the country w/ there mom because the dad was a WAS w/ a OW. Opps. Wish I could have read H's mind. In any case the movie was really good. I recommend it highly. It is scary though and I wouldn't take children much under 8.
Took D10 to her friend's house after the movie. H hung out at the house in the afternoon. We were in the same room for about an hour, but not much talk between us. Just a little small talk. Nothing about the R of course.
Took D15 to dinner w/ her friends and another mom. Got a text from H after I sent one saying I was on my way home that said H was headed to work for 45min. I said "I guess no banging for you." H said he wouldn't know what to do. Told him if he was good I might teach him a few things. H asked if him taking car of my car today wasn't good enough. I told him H had a few more conditions to meet. No reply. Not sure if he got my point that there are still some things that I think need to change.
a short question: Were you with your H as much before you separated? It sounds like you are so much involved in each others lives and I was wondering if you recognise that. To me it sounds like a very good thing. Patience...
