Do you have faith that you will be able to keep the house without too much protest from her, and keep custody of the minor children with her just having visitation? 'Cause if not, many would say that you will be *ahem* not happily served by the court system.
I think she would be happy to take her $ and get out of the house. She wants to sell it anyway. So, I don't think that would be a hugs issue. If it was, we could sell it, even now, and come out pretty well. I wouldn't leave the house until thing are agreed to in writing. Yes, there might be a lot of glee!
As far as the kids, I imagine we would get joint custody, I don't see any arguments that either of us could successfully use to get anything different. She has to stay in her resent job for another two years, or she gets to cough up $30,000 for the education they paid for, plus here parents are here, so I don't think she'll be going anywhere. It won't be great, but it would work out ok.
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Statistically, it's shown that "bad" marriages that can be held together even when bad, within five years are called "good" marriages by the principals. So, it may behoove you to suck it up and make some 180's without using that D word.
I think it has been bad for at least 10 years, so that statistic isn't too useful. She seems content with things as they are, and has such a store of built up resentment that I think I could turn into Superman and it wouldn't matter. The bar always gets raised!
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Many times in the foggy past, my decisions were helped along by not "which one is better?" but "which one will I regret the least". Seems to work okay for me.
I like that question. And it is a good one. I will have to think about it some more. But I think I would regret not trying to change things more. The question I have to follow up with is whether this is the least regrettable way of doing it!
Thanks for coming by, F1. I like to hear your thoughts.
