Confusion of a WAW (Thread 7)

It just sounds through the whole thing like she's putting all the blame on you and not making herself accountable for anything. And I must have missed something...is she talking about things from your M? Sorry if I'm prying, you don't have to explain if you don't want to.

Yeah, she is talking about things from our M. Her big problem is feeling 'abandoned' after D was born and a time before we were married when we separated for a few weeks - I don't think she ever quite got over that. She said we did, and we obviously got married and pregnant, but she still brings it up.

And the kisses and hugs and ILY's...wasn't she the one doing this? I know you pretty much follow her lead on this stuff don't you?

Yep, she started doing it, so I just went along. When I leave her house, we ALWAYS hug and kiss - We have for four months. Hell, I gave her flowers yesterday morning for V-day and she reached out to hug me, and kissed me. WTF?

Do you know what you did that make her think you were wanting more...or is she saying this because she knows you want more?
Like KerryK said...you're in a lose lose sitch because no matter what you do she's not happy.

I don't think I did anything - She just knows that I want us back together again. That said, if I got into an R with someone else, she'd blame me for bailing out as soon as someone new came along.

So back WAY off. Don't even except her invites or help with the house anymore. And try to stick closely to your schedule with your D (that's always your advice to me too!).
I'm feeling a little bitter tonight...sorry if that come across in my post!
J~

I already promised to take D over to her house tomorrow, since she's watching her sister's baby and her parents are coming over. I guess that may be a good opportunity to gauge her mood. W has a tough time being away from D, and in the last few weeks I have really tried to make sure that she can spend some time with D every day.

I don't know about refusing her invites. Last time I pushed back when she came to me, it blew up in my face big time... Took me a week, a lot of work, dragging W to a therapist and a couple of k of money for lawyers to clean it up.