Yup. If a pderson believes that a certain behavior is what is expected and it is a behavior that they do repeatedly, then it will continue, unconsciously.
If your H did something every morning for instance before leaving for work, it is such an ingrained behavior that it continues even without thought.
So yes, we can be trained.
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......