As you all know, I am a huge advocate for exposing the affair. It was probably one of the best things I ever did in my entire life. My W even told me "If you had not done it, the A would still be going on." She actually thanked me for it, and saw that I was FIGHTING for her and her love. All the while, I was doing DB stuff, GALing, etc. There is room for all of the good advice you are getting.

The EXPOSURE was the key for me. I owe a lot of that to Chocolate_Eyes (who has since been kicked off the board inexplicably.)

It is a TOUGH thing to do, but you can't let a liar/cheater decide your fate. You have to take control of your life.

PLEASE PLEASE read my sitch kikidee. I was in the SAME place as you.

My sitch