In a way I think it's kind of nice he didn't bring you flowers. The year my H filed for D he had told me in late January/early February that the marriage was definitely over and he was filing for D. Then on Valentine's Day he brought me flowers (just to be nice... so I'd have something...) and a card that did have a nice sentiment and he wrote, something like he'd always love me. Quite honestly, this only made detaching and believing in the D much more difficult. Because, why on earth would he do this? I did expect the act of him bringing me something for Valentine's and the sentiment in the card to have at least some meaning. But he later explained, "I'm sorry if I misled you." In other words, he still wanted to D me and nothing was going to change that.

So I threw the card away. It carried no meaning that year. He did it out of pity. Cleaning the house and having dinner when you got home.... that seems much more honest.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.