IC, dude, from everything I have been up against in the last year -- the D sitch and now this bizarre rehab thing -- I have learned one huge lesson: YOU NEVER KNOW HOW YOU ARE GOING TO REACT TO A SITCH UNTIL IT ACTUALLY HAPPENS TO YOU.
I had always thought/said "you cheat, you're gone;" however H has now had 1 EA, 1 ONS and 2 affairs while deployed and guess where I am and have been for the last year: fighting for my M.
Now as far as your question goes, it would really depend a lot of the circumstances of the entire sitch. Is the WAS truly not in love w/ their spouse anymore or have they just been sucked into the honeymoon of an affair. If the WAS truly still loves his/her spouse and deep in their heart it is killing them to leave their family the way they are, then when the LBS starts GAL'ing to the max, it's going to drive the WAS crazy. However, on the other hand if their M has gone way past reconciliation and the affair isn't just a "passing honeymoon," the WAS would probably either (1) not care at all that their ex was GAL and/or (2) not even notice.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
