Mojo, I don't know if you missed that particular memo but men who want you to be their girlfriend say "will you be my girlfriend". Really. If he wants the situation clear he will make it clear. Then you can say "yes" or "no" or "I'll get back to you sometime during the next lunar year". But to leave it ambiguous on purpose and THEN get into a tiff because you're not acting the way he wants is just .......arrrgh.
Okay, probably it is the case that he made it very clear but I am the moron. It was just kind of confusing because he was saying that he wanted to commit to a relationship before we had even met in person so I, of course, indicated that I thought that was crazy and didn't take him seriously. He said that I should take him seriously because he's the type of person who makes decisions and sticks with them. So, when we were together over the weekend he kept acting like we were a couple with a future (like he told me I should get a library card in his city) but he never actually said it. Plus he got text messages from his ex that indicated that she wanted to get back together with him in girl-ese and she had dumped him in a very ego-deflating way and they had been together for quite a while. Plus I am broke and bohemian and I can't figure out why a well-off workaholic who grew up in poverty and therefore has issues around money would want to be in a relationship with me. He says because I am hot but I was hoping that really it was because I am a fun playmate. I actually do like him. His earliest childhood memory is that his mother was having important company over that she wanted to impress and she put him to bed for the evening and he ran out of his bedroom naked and laughing and got an *ss-whipping. He has a very good relationship with his mother as an adult and he helps her out financially so he thinks this memory is funny. So you can see that we are kind of compatible.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
