So I called him and told him I thought about it and realized I was really looking out for him and not us. I told him he told me to look out for me and i need to.
H said..well, Im not divorcing you then. I can't afford to. Im putting everything off.
I said, H you cant d othat..you still have to pay me..He said he would.
I said you dont understand..D7 needs a normal life and that is what I want for her.I cant take vacations or anything. h said Well,
H said that he canot afford to pay his lawyer and he is not going thru with the divorce.
I told him not is not legal.
We werent arguing..I was trying to be civil.
H said he is not trying to be an ahole but he just cant afford to pay me.
i told h we could settle if he would budge and he said he wasnt budging.
When we hung up itold him we would talk later and he said ther eis nothing left to talk about i said ok, bye and he hung up>
kiki- IMO, he is using the "I can't afford the D" as an excuse. Am I stating the obvious here? He is having doubts about the D but can't tell you that so he has to make up an excuse. If he really wanted to the D, he would find a way to go forward with it.
Did you have the depo today or did it get called off?
Interesting stuff! You seem like you are handling it all so well. Keep us posted.
Kiki Does your H know you are standing? does he know you want him back? Is there a way it could be made known to him.without persuing .check Holly s thread peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
So, H called afterwards while I was teaching . H was clearly upset because of a letter my lawyer sent. Saying it wanted more than what i would settle for.
So I called him back and told him I am not out to rob him I just want what is fair. What i like about me now, I handle it with such ease. I am not afraid to speak up and I did it nicely.
Anyway, I told him in that he told me it didnt matter if I settled and I didnt want this. I told him I did not want him to suffer and he knew that.
H responded: What is going to happen is going to happen. Ill get a second job or something I dont need time off.
I responded : You know I dont want that. Think about it.
and he didnt respond.
On to the deposition.
It went really well. His lawyer was very nice. As soon as D7 walked in with me he said "Thank God you have your mothers looks" So he just asked me a bunch of questions about my house, visitation, and my career. I'm telling you, I think H's lawyer is rooting for me.
So As we were leaving I told his lawyer what he said about not divorcing me and not being able to afford his lawyer. He just smirked and said "that would be great and all . Im all for reconciling ..well you have a good lawyer. Like the old saying goes "it's cheaper to keep her". He also got mad when he heard H said he couldnt afford to pay him.
I do believe even H's lawyer is on my side. It went really really well.
It was a good day!
Thank you for all your prayers and well wishes ..it worked
Hi kiki- I am so glad that things went well for you yesterday. So funny that your H's attorney has a crush on you...and he probably is rooting for you.
It sure seems like you are just standing there peacefully watching your H ride the rollercoaster. Good for you.
