It's been bugging me to get to the bottom of the truth in regard to the status between H and his friend.

At the start of this ordeal 3 years ago, after finding out about OW (suppose that should be OW1), I had to know what was really going on. I needed the closure, and I felt that I wasn't getting it from H. I knew he was continuing to be deceitful.

I tried contacting OW1, but she didn't answer her phone, so I left a calm and polite voicemail asking her to please call me. That I had some questions I needed answered. I said I was in no way upset with her since H said she had no idea he was M'ed with children, and I had no desire to argue or cause any trouble with her. I just really needed the closure.

She never called, but I sort of expected that, and let it go.

About two or three weeks later, H's cellphone bill arrived. Never felt the need to look at it before (plus, it was always paid by his employer at that time), but I snooped and discovered some calls that showed H was still in communication with OW1. I don't think I need to tell anyone how devastated I was again. After discovering his A, he assured me it was over and he hadn't talked to her.

When I confronted H with the known calls, he said OW1 was the one initiating contact. Said she would keep leaving messages if he didn't call her back. Wanting to believe my H, this infuriated me.

So I called OW1's cellphone, and again, no answer (she probably recognized my number), but I did leave another message, and I was not so nice that time. I made sure she was aware that I was angry and asked what type of woman was she. What type of woman would continue to have inappropriate contact with a man whom she knew was M'ed and had 3 children?! I told her H said she was the one calling him and not the other way around, that he said he didn't want to talk to her anymore, and she needed to stop what she was doing. I said she could call me if she'd like, but she was to stay away from my H.

Of course no call ever came.

But when the next bill arrived, I found one more call to OW1 that took place a couple of days after my call to her. I was nearly in a rage at this point and demanded to know why he called her. It happened after H and I had a fight, and he said he just wanted to talk to her. I asked what did she have to say, and H said, "She told me to eat sh*t and not to call her again, then she hung up on me."

My guess is that H was lying about telling OW1 not to call him anymore. He was most likely the one initiating the calls, and when I told her in the voicemail that he said it was the other way around, it p*ssed her off. And perhaps knocked some sense into her. \:\/ With that second call, that was my intent.

So anyway, what I'm getting at is I suspect H is being deceitful again and hiding the real truth from me about his friend, the current OW.

Shoot, I'm running out of time here, so I will be back a little later to write about what went on so far this day.

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell