Thanks ladies. It's good to hear from you both. Yes, they are overreacting hysterically! If it was just GF going through this, I would predict she will "snap out of it." BUT, she & ex are going through it together & "supporting" each other supposedly. They are in a Bible study together, go to church together, do church events together, etc. I think they sit around and read the Bible together and watch religious movies, too. I consider all of this as being brainwashed. (We're in TN - the Bible belt.) And since they are "supporting" each other, they may very well stick to it.
Oh yes, another thing about GF is she is very "attached" to her mother and even though her parents knew about (and supported) she & ex for the 12 years they were together, they would love for her to "turn" from this "lifestyle."
Anyway, I agree that there's absolutely nothing that I can do except give her space which I have been doing. I feel pretty good, don't cry anymore, have fun with my friends now. I do still think about her very frequently, though. I still love her very much and want so much for her to come back to me.
The arguing, by the way, for the past 6 - 12 months has been mostly her trying to get me stirred up so she'd have a reason to leave I think. I had changed quite a bit the way I dealt with her and she even admitted she noticed my changes back in October. I guess I could have shut my mouth instead of questioning all this religious stuff. I have tried to talk to her "too much" about the religion and the relationship. And, my last screw up, driving by the house and questioning why she's selling it. Well, I can't be perfect but I sure am trying.
More advice please when you get a chance. I know ya'll are busy with your own lives and families but this is so comforting to be able to discuss it. I'm a very verbal person (one thing that got me into trouble with GF) and love to discuss everything.
