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Bworl #1358689 02/15/08 07:48 PM
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I am going up to Oregon and go visit my Niece and her fiance, we are (weather dependent) going to go hiking and he has some really nice firearms so we may even go out and do some shooting...

Then I am going to come down and see my kids (both are in college) and come home on Monday...

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Fyre,

Good for you. I have been thinking about this.
It would seem natural that you and OM's W would have alot in common, and a good reason to talk or keep notes.

I can think of at least two really good reasons not to.

One the possible problems of things leading from crying on each others shoulders. Not saying it would happen; saying it could happen. You're going to be very vulnerable, the easiest way to avoid temptation is to remove temptation.

The other, lets say you both develop a purely plutonic friendship, and become very good friends. Down the road your wife comes back, lets make this a real happy story and lets say her H goes back to her as well. Your friendship will be strained. She will neve get along with your wife. You will never get along with her H. Your friendship will be a reminder to the circumstances of how it came to form.



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Those are both good reasons.

The first one especially, two vulnerable people crying on each other's shoulder could lead in a bad direction in a hurry. And that is one of the main reasons I felt like this was not a good thing. The thought crossed my mind that things could happen very easily, and the only result is more pain and craziness..

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Crying on any shoulder of any person of the opposite sex is inherently dangerous.


Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
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Yup.

Life is a Soap Opera. Your decisions affect whether you just watch or become a part of the cast.

Ultimately I consider it a good day if my actions don't reflect as a Jerry Springer Show Topic of the Day.



Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

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Exactly right, I started to feel like I was in High School again. He said this, she said that, I am gonna beat you up after gym class... No thanks...

I may be feeling low, but I still have some self respect.

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That and your integrity are all you end up with anyway, so I say keep 'em!!!

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