Divorced about a year

[ACJ]

IMHO it seems like she was pleased with your gift so I don't think you went overboard.

She didn't understand why I sent it

Those of us here will recognise that you sent it with unconditional love but how you go about relaying that to a WAS I've no idea. Maybe you just need to continue showing unconditional love and eventually she will 'get' it. Then she will either accept that love or she will make it clear that it makes no difference and she still stands by your D.

I think for now all you can do is to be there for her when she wants/needs you. It is good that you have been able to retain a friendship for the sake of S8. I wish my H would at very least agree to that. Every R, not just romantic ones, have to have a basis of friendship so continue to nurture this and who knows what the future may bring.

Good luck