I agree that consistent sex w/o reciprocal desire = crap sex and just isn't worth it.

However, I am amazed at the level of masochism that must drive you ... to peg your entire sense of fulfillment in life to something (your wife's desire) which you have absolutely zero control over.....

Is that what you WANT??? To be eternally enslaved to her?

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