You know Brit, I talked to my W's best friend this morning and she said the same thing - she thinks my W just needs to live her life on her own for a while. You and I are in the same damned if you do, damn if you dont situation. They need our help at times, but if we give them too much help, they think we are expecting something in return. Of course we are - we want nothing more than for our W's to love us as we love them.
It is so very hard to detach when there are children that you share together. I dont know what else to tell you other than to continue to be the best dad and all the other pieces should fall in place eventually.
I wonder if your graph might show something that happens intensely every 29-30 days?
