It sure sounds like we have a couple of needy people here who have lived together for a long time and are feeling pretty crappy & disoriented when their partner isn't present for them as usual.
Originally Posted By: cat03
... yesterday he tried calling me a few times (of course, when I was in the shower) and hit the machine, thought I didnt' want to talk to him and hanged up.
--he didn't say much in reply, well, he did say he wasn't feeling well either and had decided to go to see the C his dept. provides and hoped it didnt' get him in trouble.
... he said he wasn't sure he'd be a fun person to be around
He's feeling as bad as you, Cat, and likely for the same reason.
Here is something that works very well for me, you might like to try it. When H does phone, take notes of the entire phone call. Have a soft pencil and plenty of paper on hand because it comes out as a big scribble when you try to do this as you're both talking. But it's great to be able to read over the conversation later on, over the next few days if need be, or in the middle of the night, and to have every word. It's the next best thing to having him present. Take care, Cat.
