Well, let me start by saying I left for a while found myself after the divorce was final and now I'm back. I'm 40 s8 married 8 years before the divorce. I hold out hope we can some how piece our lives back together.
My EW and I have remained friendly in an effort to lesson the strain on our child. Recently I found out that she was dating an ex boyfriend who she had left because he was abusive. I made clear my concern for S8 and she understood but telling me he had changed and no longer like that. I left it at that and discussed it no further. From time to time when we talk she'll bring the new BF up and I'll give her valid advice when asked. Nothing more.
In the last month she has called more frequently to chat and at one point she said that she was sure I was happy to no longer have her living with her because she's nothing but a B. I didn't respond to confirm or deny the fact just let be as a statement that she made. We talked a bit longer and she thanked me for being such a good friend, one that she didn't deserve.
Well on V day I bought a book signed by one of her favorite authors at a silent auction and had it sent to her annonymously. She called later in the day to talk about S8 and then asked if I had sent it. I told her I did, I could tell she was having a bad day (based on a previous conversation) and I thought that as a friend she could use a surprise. She started to cry and said she didn't deserve to be treated in this way. To which I responded a special friend sometimes needs a special gift. She didn't understand why I sent it but I left it at that.
Well today, she called me to discuss S8 (having some problems at school over the last couple of weeks) and thanked me several times again for the book and again didn't understand why I sent it.
Did I go to far with the gift. Any advice on what I should do? I know I haven't provided everything and will be glad to provide more info just ask.
