Stu Just curious, how many here have a problem getting their SO to discuss relationship issues? I have had and continue to have a very difficult time getting my W to listen. I am careful not to come across as hostile or demanding, and that I'm just trying to tell her how I feel. I even preface the convo with the statement that I don't expect anything from her, just an open ear. I seem to have the same problem. Your situation is a little different. I never said I didn’t expect anything from my W.
One thing that may be influencing this is my W uses me like an emotional tampon, she unloads on me daily and I provide the reassurance and guidance on the things she is troubled about. Same here. I call it dunping. Using the word tampon will get you in hot water.
One thing is, some people just like to dump their garbage. Stu, never try to fix any of her garbage unless it is truly your problem to fix.
But I don't normally do this to her. I try to keep quiet about my problems. Most of my stuff, she wouldn’t have the foggiest notion about what to do.
