Yes, it is. I am learning alot about becoming a better me through this whole process.
I felt good about the card yesterday, because I didn't focus on Vday at all for anyone except the kids. All I got for h was a kiddie card (Tinkerbell!) and I bought a Vday cake for the family. I can honestly say I had no expectations about Vday at all!
Also, I had been getting a little down over the last few days because it seemed that maybe h was withdrawing or backing up a little bit. When he doesn't call or when I can't reach him, I tend to think that he's out gambling or hiding something from me. (Our first C remarked that gambling was like the OW in our R.) It was so hard over these last few days not to say anything about that. I'm glad I resisted.
