I really need him to acknowledge that what he did was wrong and inappropriate whether things were physical or not. I need him to understand that.
When we were in MC, the counselor tried to tell him that you aren't supposed to have a friend of the opposite sex that your spouse doesn't know. I just feel like I need an explanation for being so close to her, for the phone calls, for the text messages, and for moving in with her. I have told him that before and he says he can't explain it. He does tell me that what he had with her and the things they talked about was on the surface and shallow. He says it was never anything deep like we had.
I remember in one of my individual counseling sessions, which was right after H's she asked me to tell her all the reasons I thought H was having an A. I told her and then she said she just wanted to make sure she wasn't missing anything. Then she said "I have just talked to your H, and I have heard everything you have to say and unless your H is a REALLY good liar...he is not having an A." ...Although at the time neither one of us knew that he was living with OW.
Wow, I really need to stop harping on this. I really feel myself getting mad all over again. I do think counseling would help him understand my feelings in all of this.
Hmmm....not sure yet what I am doing for the weekend...just glad I won't be working!
