Getting stronger everyday!

[SirPrizeMe]

Kissak, funny,
as I was reading your report of the midnight drunken phone call, I was thinking - what a great opportunity to be his friend. Then I read what others wrote, what a surprise!

Here you are accepting him for who he is, not reprimanding him, not accusing him, correcting him, judging him. I thought that was friendship. at the time he was hurting and you were there for him and I thought that was great.

At the same time, you recognized within yourself that "what goes around comes around". You felt the feeling, you recognized and acknowledged the hurt, but you owned it, controlled it, and did not let it control you.

I thought you did great, and I aspire to be able to be that strong if a similar situation ever presents itself to me.

A bunch of people have said "you've gone too far" and "that wouldn't fly with me" or whatever. I feel their hurt reading their posts. I know they don't want to see you get "walked on." They want to defend you. They are outraged on your behalf.

But they don't need to be outraged for you. you don't need defending. You are a strong adult, and you can handle it.

What you wrote about "I wish he could figure things out." i feel exactly that with my wife. I like what you said ;

It is really been circling through my mind lately of the fact that being single really isnt so bad.

Good for you! Good for you. Things will work out for you, one way or the other.