SO!! I am not alone on this one...Thanks for the comments ,I know exactly what you guys mean. Today's search for meaning led me to articles about intimacy, guess what most of said? They define intimacy as the ability for a person to reveal their needs, issues, and fears to another and receive support and understanding. Without intimacy, the couple will eventually suffer from sexual issues, etc etc. I'm paraphrasing a bit but this is interesting as as a potential root cause.
I'm deeply conflicted here:
1. The prevailing theory is that communication is essential. 2. It could make me feel better, but it's damn near impossible, and probably won't lead to any meaningful changes. 3. After communication is intimacy, which is going to be really difficult to achieve given the difficulty in communication) 4. Mutual intimacy requires both parties to actually care about the needs of the other.
It seems so simple to me for my W to just say "Stu, you say you are not happy, why is that exactly". And then "OK, well may be we could try X? How does that sound?". I do this all the time with her.
But no. No response. Ignoring it is the same as saying "f*ck you".
