Nope, I wasn't blasting Mark. Making a blanket statement like he did bears more explanation, not just 'saying it would have worked out different'. People then have to fill in the blanks using their OWN beliefs. Not a good idea when there are so many emotions in play.
I'll add that 'outing' an affair and calling OM / OW other half are not the same thing.
I'm not against holding her H accountable for his actions, I'm saying that pulling the OW's H into the fray adds a level of complexity you are not in an emotional position to manage.
Take AWAY control of YOU from H. THAT is what YOU have ultimate ownership of. YOU.
