peace- It sounds like you are getting more detached and relaxing a bit. That is so good. You are putting more focus on the positives in your life and how can you go wrong with that? Let your H go for now. You need to be happy and be strong. I believe yout H will eventually see you for the extraordinary person you have become and realize how he has screwed up his life. So, don't be afraid to live your life because I believe if you do, it will only help you and your kids and possibly your H and your M.
I hope you have a good weekend. I hope we get a chance to talk this weekend.