CONTACTING OW/OW'S HUSBAND

[ediemarie]

I did contact OW. I called her and told her off. Her response: "thanks for telling me how you feel." After we hung up, she called my H. It pushed them closer together. I also called their boss (my h and ow work/ed together) and told him. I told our church elders - anyone I could think of. H and I have reconciled, and to be honest, none of that mattered. What mattered was me loving him. What mattered was me fighting for us and giving him the space he was asking for.

Your H is asking for space. Give it to him. Stay out of his business. This really has nothing to do with you. You are the victim. You have no control over any of it. Find a way to love your H in spite of this. Find a way to show him that you care. That you understand he isn't happy. That you are willing to allow him to screw up and clean this up on his own. Don't muddy the waters by thinking that his actions have anything to do with you or that you have any control over him.

Be strong.
Em