CONTACTING OW/OW'S HUSBAND

[LuvMyHusband]

My H's OW didn't have an H but even my contacting her really upset my H. He saw it as controlling and taking away his choice, free agency. That I tried to make him be accountable instead of allowing him the opportunity to do it. He feels that people should be able to make mistakes and make it right when they are ready, not when some one else is. The stuff I did to get him to stop with her and to get her to back off only made him angry and resentful to me. She could do whatever and it didn't matter...at first. Once I backed off and it was HIS choice, he stopped with her.

The hardest thing for me to do is to BACK OFF and to not control. I had those issues prior so backing off helps. Anyway, you have to think carefully. Time, time, time.