CONTACTING OW/OW'S HUSBAND

[Rob1231]

Just for the record, I'm not jumping on Mark. I agree that outing the affair can work in certain situations. I have chosen the other path.

OK, can't resist weighing in here. I agree, I don't think Drew & Co. were blasting Mark.

What I don't agree with is his statement that things would have turned out differently if he would have done that. No one knows that.

I do.

Ah, now, here's the tricky part.

Would things have turned out differently? Absolutely! A major change like that would have to have serious impact on the sitch.

Would things have turned out the way you would like them to? Would your W have suddenly woken from her MLC insanity and agreed to work on the marriage? There's just no telling. Reading other sitches here, outing the affair could just as easily have added fuel to the fire of her craziness, and accelerated her flight from the M. Assuming you know this answer implies that you still think you can control her actions - you've learned that lesson by now, haven't you?

I wish there was a cookbook that would guarantee success here, I truly do. Every sitch is different, and none of them is easy. My very best hopes for everybody reading this thread and struggling with this question. (((Hugs)))