CONTACTING OW/OW'S HUSBAND

[SueS]

Please don't take this in an agry manner, but I kind of feel like my friend Mark is being jumped by people for his opinion, which you can take or leave, your choice.

Mark may not know 100% what the outcome would have been, but I tend to agree with him. I lacked the courage to out things early. In a discussion with my H, he admitted that he didn't respect me because I didn't put my foot down and that he was wondering why I hadn't questioned some of the things I saw. Maybe it wouldn't have made a difference at that stage of things, but I think each situation is different. You can't say definately that not outing the A is the only way to go. There are people on here that HAVE done it and it has worked. It all depends on how your S will react to it. If you read a lot of the threads here, some S's have admitted that deep down they wanted to get caught and get outed. Only YOU know what will be best in your situation.

SueS