the fact that you feel this way after being with these men is a sign that they are not the right men for you.
I agree those men may not be right for Mojo (or maybe one of them is right?), but I also don't think they should have the power to send her into such a tailspin. To me, that says something about unfinished business on Mojo's part, and that unfinished business could be provoking such comments from the men.
