All that will happen if you do this is that you will push your H farther away. You cannot control what he does or feels. By taking the high road and working on yourself you ARE doing something. The details of what your H is doing and who he is doing it with don't matter in the long run.
What matters is that you take care of yourself and show him that you are the same woman who he fell for in the first place. Exposing what he is doing will only make things worse. Do things that make you happy and try not to focus on what he is doing. I know it hurts. But it will hurt a lot more if you put this wedge between you and your H. Plus it will make it just that much harder to get things back on track later.
Be patient and as hard as it may be, love him. Loving someone who loves you back is easy. Loving someone who is hurting you or who says that they don't love you is true love. Be the best woman you can be, not only for your M, but for your family and most of all for YOU!
You can do this. Every time you get knocked down get up, dust yourself off, have a good cry, vent on this board, but don't let him see you that way. You are strong, and you can make this work. Just hang in there and go one day at a time.
-Bryan
Me-45 W-34 T-5 M-3 1/2 s-10 s-12 ILYBNILWY 12/26/07 Sleeping away from home at friend's house(because she says she can't get any sleep otherwise) 1/14/08 1/25/08 We tell kids she is moving out
