How do I begin piecing??

[MichelleLT]

I'm glad he has another interview. That's pretty cool. It's always nice to have options.

I did find myself having anxiety about OW last night. I was really close to leaving shortly after I really having a hard time coping with the thoughts. I know that probably goes away with time, but I am just not sure I can be with him when that doubt will always be there or the fear that he will do it again will always be there. I shouldn't have to fear that.

I am just having that doormat feeling again. Why is it that he gets to do what he wants and I am supposed to just forgive him? Doesn't that send the message that he can do it again, and I will just forgive him again? Sorry, I am rambling...I guess I am just having a bad day.

I definitely wonder the same things. Especially since my H has expressed hardly any remorse and absolutely no interest in trying to pick up the pieces of this M. There are days where I can't see the hope, where I think nothing will ever change. But, things have changed for you in just a few months, so I'm sure time is part of this. However, it might be time to shake things up a little? I'd like someone who's actually been through/in piecing to tell me if it's too soon since I'm not even close to being there yet and I'm just going off my gut.

It sounds like you guys are stuck at a comfortable level, but can't get past this whole EA yet. Perhaps you should feel him out and see if he's willing to do some reading to try and understand how you feel. I found this article wonderful, and it lists 3 criteria for an A that include both EA and PA. Plus tips on rebuilding. Maybe it would be a good way to prompt some more open conversation. http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/index.php?term=19980701-000026&page=1