Matilda and Jak, I read an article online yesterday about financial conflict with couples. It said that the basic reason couples fight about money is that they are not on the same page--different priorities and goals.
The conflict management skills I'm practicing have me first listen to discover what's important to my W, rather than my opening line usually being "we can't afford it." I accept that she's angry with me about not taking an abrupt vacation, that I wasn't available to go on. I'm still not sure how we're going to pay for Puerto Rico, but I managed to slow the process down so that it's not an impulsive act. She still talks about Hawaii, but I told her I wouldn't be available until July for that.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
