I think the idea is that once you know you are protected, you can wait. At that point you have limited the damage he can do. I guess if he goes to the point where you can't protect yourself enough, then you don't have a lot of choice but to take the reins.
Isn't it great how your kids can know just the right thing to do without even realizing it!
H came home from work and tossed the spa package at me.
My first thought was that he gave it to me instead of her to shut me up.
Then I opened it and it was signed in gold pen for me.
Wow! big foot in mouth.
I feel like an idiot.
Rightly so but really what was I to think. His past record kind of says something.
I appologized for the morning and I asked him if he could tell me that I could completely trust him I would. thus believing things as I see them and trust him.
He couldn't say it. Guess it might get ugly
He said he knew it was going to be a bad day for me and got me this.
On top of it all he is sick and feels like crap.
We talked or rather I talked and he raised his voice.
He left to get the trailer to start packing closing date is March 16, and came back 1 hr later.
We talked some more and it was ok until the lawyers and financial situaion came up.
I tried to remain calm but he kept going in the same direction.
Well that went on for a short while and zip it....that was it.
He went in his bed and I made some homemade chicken noodle soup and brought him some with crackers and bread.
He said I don't want you to do that.
I know, I don't want anything in return and kissed his head and said thanks.( for the spa package)
You're welcome.
What a day!
Tommorrow should be another one.... Lawyer and money.
I want this to be overwith so I can move on.
E
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
Just read back a bit on your thread E - I'm so sorry that this is happening in your life. Things do eventually get better, though, so you hang in there too.
As we've all found out, you never know what the future will bring, but some of it is bound to be good!
I'm sick with a miserable head cold on top of everything alse.
Went to the lawyers yesterday and we went over the financial statement. She gave me homework
Geshhhhh...my head is spinning and the tears are flowing allllll day I look like a wet sponge.
Went to dr's and got some anti-anxiety meds .and stuff for cold.
H went and got stuff for his cold and viagra. He left the pkg.on the counter by mistake. That hurt but I guess it doesn't really matter now anyway....
When all is said and done I will probably end up with a 70,000 dollar mortgage and not sure what alimony will be.
I didn't ask for this and I have no choice and here it is right in my face.
My H closing date on his house is March 16.
My youngest son is heading to Alberta for 3 years for work
And I feel like my world is moving fast and I want to get off.
On the flip side H has been telling me this morning that he is not going to be a pri-k and he will be here to fix things if I need them. He worked on the furace this morning. Filters and stuff
That's what makes it soooooo hard He's still taking care of me.
Also I asked what do I do about going over to his house ...what do I do he said call first....ok that was weird and kinda hurt and was a jolt of reality.
He said he needs to be alone...to get away that there has been so much stress in this last year he needs to be by himself.
He may start dating,but he just needs to get away and be alone.
The househe bought was a repo and a fixer upper and he said he doesn't even want anyone there to help him. If he wants to work on it for an hour here and there that's what he'll do.
I know this is what needs to be done for us to get apart to have space and heal. But it is so painful.
My heart is broken and I've never been so sad.
E
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
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