Don't keep quiet about it! Just find someone who will listen, whether it be a counselor, a religious figure, or even a friend that you explain that you don't want tough love, just someone to vent to and lean on.
And remember, keep loving them, but temper that with honesty and self-respect.
"I made the wall of shadow draw back, beyond desire and act, I walked on.
Oh flesh, my own flesh, woman whom I loved and lost, I summon you in the moist hour, I raise my song to you."
