Helloooo...Smoother Ride....Where Are You?? - Pt.2

[fightingirish]

Sue,

I hope you have a quiet,nice Valentines day!... Will send some dark chocolate cordial cherries your way

tal

[runningoutoftime]

I say ignore OW and H. I may be wrong about this, but I think it's best to assume he's still seeing her or that the relationship can always spark up again, and he can always decide to leave or D you. I know that doesn't give you a lot of hope. But on the other hand, it allows one to detach easily, helps reduce co-dependency, keeps you focused on GALing (because you can't depend on H, you HAVE to have your own life and work towards happiness with or without him), and hopefully it will encourage you to keep working towards being an amazing, interesting, and attractive woman that no one in their right mind would ever want to lose.

So don't focus on them, focus on that last part of my sentence. No one wants to be married to an insecure, jealious spouse.... avoid that place if possible!

(Although that doesn't mean you can't take a few moments to imagine what she'd look like after you threw a cherry pie in her face today for Valentine's Day!).

[Rob1231]

Nicely said, ROOT.

Happy V-day, Sue!

[SueS]

Mr. Rob!!

So nice to hear from you. Happy V-Day to you too.

Yes, Root, I'm trying hard to see how I need to be happy no matter what happens. I don't think H has known what to think of me the past few days. I've cried when I'm by myself, but when I'm around him I've been happy and smiling. I'm not afraid of being alone (me & D3) anymore. Sad if it happens, but not afraid. It's just been a little tough this past week & 1/2 because H has been a lot nicer to me. He sent me a nice email today, had asked me to go to dinner tomorrow night...etc. I'm supposed to be going out of town this weekend to pick up D3 at my parent's house. It's going to be very, very cold tomorrow & then be icy/rainy on Sat. H called me and said, I know we talked about dinner and I still want to go but I'm wondering when you should leave for home. He told me that he's scared to see me drive in the dark/sub-zero temps, but also to see me driving in the ice/rain. Something about the way he's been makes me feel that he's actually concerned vs. trying to get me out of town early. Could be my imagination getting away with me though.

But hey, YEE HAW, the bosses are gone for the day and I'm ready to leave myself.

Have a great V-Day everyone.

I'll likely be on later!

SueS

[runningoutoftime]

I can understand what you are saying about the niceness making it harder. But truly you have to completely let go of expectations. Thank him for any kindness and tell him how much you respect and appreciate him for that (men eat that stuff up! Shhhhh!). This will also encourage him to continue doing nice things.

Then make sure you are reciprocating with similar kindness. Kind acts without expectations. Never expect his words or actions to mean more than just nice things he'd do for anyone.

[saffie]

Sue,
Root's advice, (as usual) is spot on!!!

BTW - I esp. like the cherry pie image.

Root - together we could be very dangerous - ever though of openeing a cross Atlantic OW jibe agency?

[SueS]

Thanks ROOT!

Saffie- Can I join in on the OW Jibe Agency? I'm an Executive Assistant, so I'd be more than happy to handle the paperwork end of it if you and ROOT want to do the actual Jibe work. I just want in!! Yes, a pie in OW's face would be wonderful!

Journaling:
H called from work last night and talked for 10 minutes. He then called after work to tell me that he was stopping off for a few beers with his co-workers. Hard to believe him these days, but I do think he was being honest about that. Not sure why he feels the need to call and check in anymore, but I did appreciate it. Not sure what time he got home but I woke up at 1:00 and he was on the pc. BLAH!! I just went back to sleep.

I am going to leave for home early today instead of waiting until tomorrow. H had asked me if I wanted to go to dinner tonight but then we talked about the weather and I thought it would be better for me to leave early today....supposed to get an ice/rain mix tomorrow in my area of travel. I suggested having lunch on my way out of town instead and H agreed. So, I'll have lunch with H and head out of town. I'm actually staying the night at my best friend's house. I don't see her often enough. My trip to my parent's is about 5 hours. She lives about an hour from them, so I'll stop at her house on the way. It will be fun. I know we'll laugh, talk, cry, have beers....etc. Then off to my parent's in the morning and big, big hugs from D3. Oh I miss her.

Well, I am leaving early, so I need to get a lot done.

SueS

[Yoyowife]

Have a safe trip Sue.

[saffie]

Sue - you are more than welcome to join the OW jibe agency - I think we can go trans global with this!!!!!

[SueS]

Thanks Saffie! Have a great day....or should I say evening for you.

Check out the new thread on contacting OW/OW's H. I felt like our friend Mark was blasted unfairly. Just my opinion.

I'm signing off. Leaving to have lunch with H and then heading to my friend's house.

SueS