You see Jeff, I read about your conversation with your ex today and honest to God, I actually felt a touch of sympathy for her. She had NO IDEA what she was pushing herself towards. It's the old "be careful what you ask for - you just might get it" deal.
Don't worry, I didn't get too carried away with the feeling sorry thing, just in case you were worried.
Thanks Bill and RMG. I needed that response. I too was feeling sorry for her and I again started to blame myself. Got to stop that.
She made the bed here. Her model of D is that the H basically quits the family after the D. That is not going to happen - she must get used to it. She needs to accept that she will not have the kids 100%, that she will have to keep the house going by herself, etc. Yea, the move was stressful but WTF, I did it - it was her turn.
I am suprised that she is so stressed still. After all it has been a 20 month separation. But now it is final and she is in a strange house - that must contribute. She does not want to be alone right now I guess, thus her wanting the kids close.
She came over last night to deliver the meds for D6. She looked bad - worse than I can remember. She stayed almost a half hour. Little talk, she just kind of hung on the kids and did not want to leave. I was feeling rather happy after a good work day and getting the kids so I was upbeat. I tried to get her to talk but she was in a funk. Not angry or anything, just stressed and sad. She reluctantly left.
It is all interesting. A good friend from this BB has been D'ed for a year now and his WAW Ex still is mad at him and treats him badly. And my Ex still does not seem detached enough not to be emotional, stressed and sad.
These folks get what they want: the D complete with the gold seal. They should be so happy, should they not?
