just be careful you don't cause yourself MORE pain, (if that's possible), by imagining the R you say your W is in to be more than it is. Sounds like she is sending out feelers for support to everyone - friends etc - other than you. Perhaps this guy has just been a bit supportive but your W sees it as more than that but HE doesn't.
You need to not torture yourself. Easy to say - hard to do - I know.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength