I have wondered this myself. I know my H and I didn't have a perfect marriage (really who does???)...I never thought I felt that soul mate connection so, sometimes I wonder if we end this, is it that great of a loss? Then sometimes I remember the good times and how compatable we were and I wonder if I would have that with someone else. I definately do love my H...I just sometimes have my doubts about everything...I guess we all do.
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he is a really bad father now the best he can do is watch tv with them yes I guess its better than not being here ate all but is he really present?? I dont know but I still feel it is worth seeing it through
Your H is damaged. He is struggling to find himself...struggling to survive. He has limited ability to interact with the kids...but HE IS THERE (at least physically) for your kids...and not all MLCers are. Try to appreciate and respect him for that if nothing else.
You know peace, are we are waiting, watching for the pot of water to boil? We need to be as happy as we can be now. We have no idea what the future has in store for us. I say this because I had a long talk with my sister today who found out last fall that her 9 year old son has muscular dystrophy. The prognosis is horrible unless they come up with a treatment. When I talk to her, it gives me a totally different perspective on my own situation...while what we are enduring is tough, she feels she is watching her child die (or at least his muscles) a little more every day. What an awful thing for a mother to have to experience...plus she blames herself because it can be genetic passed on through the mother. I would gladly endure an H in MLC than what my nephew, sister and their entire family have to go through.
Okay, I am off my soap box now. Oh, and by the way, if your H was with your kids tonight, if there is an OW, it can't be too serious, can it?
