Thanks for chiming in. I was able to have a wonderful dinner with my D.
She's a bit confused right now, which is sad. I had her call my W tonight at 8 pm to tell her goodnight and when she got off the phone, she said "Daddy, I have to tell you a secret. Mommy said she loves you very much and wants you to call her all the time."
I said, "Mommy just told you that on the phone?" She hesitated and said, "No, it was a different Mommy that said that." She's telling me what she wants and she's pretty confused. I've got to do my best to reassure her and show her my love and support through all of this. I definitely won't be badmouthing my W in front of her. In fact, I'm trying not to badmouth W at all.
Finding out about the two of them spending the night at the OM's house is painful. I can only imagine what happened once D was asleep. In any event, that is where I am right now. I need patience and compassion to continue this fight. This is what I'm praying for.
On a positive, I saw my mother-in-law when I picked up D today and I made sure to tell her thanks for loving me as her son, that they meant a lot to me and that although I don't know what the hell is going on, God must have some sort of a plan and I've got to trust He knows what He's doing. I also told her I wasn't going to give up on her daughter and I'm planning on fighting for us until I can't fight anymore.
She and I both cried and she hugged me and told me she's praying for us and is lighting so many candles every day at Mass for our marriage that she's afraid she's going to burn the church down.
I can only hope some of these prayers get through and my W is able to see the OM for what he is. He's been preying on her for a long time now and he's got control of her head and heart. I can only continue to stall the legal process out to allow me to continue to DB.
One of my former students who has babysat D and is close to both of us called and asked to come over and see D. I said ok, and I've had to explain what is going on w/o throwing W under the bus. I've simply stuck to the party line of don't really know what is going on, but W said she was unhappy and I started to work on me in therapy. I also told her that I'm not planning on quitting the fight any time soon.
D loves this girl and she was so exicted she was coming over when she called W tonight. I'm wondering what W is thinking b/c when she discussed having thoughts of ending the marriage this fall, she said "you'd have no trouble being alone b/c all those girls you've taught will want to be with you now." I told her that was the last thing on my mind as my focus was saving us and only us. However, as I'm thinking back on it, I'm wondering if she's jealous about tonight. Who knows? If she is, then it is probably a good thing.
All I know is D was in La-La Land after seeing this girl and I had the toughest time getting D to fall asleep after she left.
I loved my beautiful little date, but I'm missing my W.
I'll probably get to bed now and post more tomorrow.
