Confusion of a WAW (Thread 7)

[JennyF]

Hey Brit,
I don't think you screwed up pretty bad. In fact I doubt you really changed the sitch at all, just got a lot of things out in the open it sounds like.

I can't help it when I read your posts that I can never blame you for saying or doing some of the things you do with your W...she sends you so many mixed signals that you don't know which way is up with her. And it's good that she realizes it!!

Sometimes she hugs and kisses you, sometimes she doesn't. Then she gets upset when you try it. Same with the ILY's.
And her b-day?? Come on. She has dinner with you all the time, why wouldn't you want to do something nice for her?
She is kind of cake eating don't you think? I mean she just wants it her way when she wants it and you're supposed to sit back and take whatever she throws at you...not knowing from one minute to the next what you're going to get.
I don't know what I'd rather have Brit...that mass confusion...or my H's all out certainty.

She told me that the only reason I want to fix our M is because 'you don't have any other options right now'. She is terrified of she and I getting back into our old routines and habits, and said that when we were living together she was stressed out because she we starting to get back to that.

Do you know exactly what it is that she considers "old routines and habits"?
She's built up an image of you and it doesn't seem to be changing with your DB efforts. Do you know exactly what change she's expecting in you?

Sorry your day turned out this way. I agree with Lizzy that I wouldn't apologize or send an e-mail. Just leave it. Who knows, she may even reflect on it and come to you.
Don't beat yourself up about it. Everything happens for a reason.
J~