I've just returned from Hell night at the XW's. She was at her bitchy best and actually reduced one of the girls to tears in the course of the night. Yes, she was pissed because the girls didn't help her with dinner which consisted of throwing two frozen pizzas into the oven, taking them out, cutting them up and putting them on plates. All that added responsibility was just too much for W. She allowed the girls to turn on the movie and then somehow expected that they would then leave the movie to help her with dinner, oh, without being asked to, of course. At one point she stormed out of the kitchen, plunked herself on the sofa and announced she wasn't a "servant" therefore allowing one of the pizzas to burn! At one point I just suggested that I leave as no one seemed to be enjoying this evening and she then exclaimed "Oh sure, so now I've ruined the evening too!" A little later one of the girls asked her to sit down and watch the movie with us and she responded "Finally, someone actually cares about me in this house" Yup, what's not to love here! Finally she calmed down and the night ended better than it started. At the door she said "I just want you to know that what happened tonight had nothing to do with you, you are always welcome here" I thanked her for that. It was all I could do tonight from blowing, but I kept in mind that the kids don't need a blowout here. I tried as best I could to keep my mouth shut and be a guest, hard to do. W actually just this minute phoned to apologize and she said she felt badly about tonight. I thanked her for the apology, what else can you do. To be fair, this is the first bad evening we have had as a family since the separation but it certainly made very clear WHY I"M NOT THERE ANYMORE! I lived with this kind of childish crap year after year always trying to make it better, trying to be a better H etc. but the reality is I'm married to a child who just can't accept her role as an adult in this world. Everyone else is to blame for her actions, me, the kids, whoever else is available. It's sad. Well, that's my night. Bye bye Valentines Day!
